Less is NOT More

"The art of looking and feeling sexy is not about what you are showing"

Modern media has put a stamp of approval on "Show me what you got" and leading everyone to believe that it is sexy. Being sexy is NOT showing what you got, but rather showing enough to stir the imagination into what you MIGHT have. How many women bounce into the living room, completely nude expecting their partner to jump and be excited? Not many. In fact, most women are not confident enough in themselves being sexy to do this. Men respond more to images and by using their imagination with possibilities than to outright in your face tactics. Seeing a woman in a teddy, for instance, stirs the imagination. Can I see a nipple, or is it the lace? Just as an ad from the past proclaims, anticipation!

Remember back to the first couple of dates, before sex entered into the picture. The anticipation of sex was much more appealing, and made the final act of sex much more intense and memorable. So it should be with lingerie. It is a tool that allows you to build that anticipation.

So the next time you are in the mood, and want GREAT sex, just put on something slinky, yet covering and see what happens! You'll thank me.

Flatter Yourself First

Just because a model looks sexy in a thong it doesn't mean you will.  Choose your lingerie according to your personality and body type.  Be aware that not all colors work for all hair colors.  For instance, hot pink does not go well with deep red lingerie.  White lingerie works well for anyone with a dark skin tone.  Black works well for lighter skin tones.  Another tip is to avoid wearing something made for bustier women if you have a small bust size.  As an example, a corset is really made for women with large busts.  Someone with an A cup will probably not flatter the outfit.  If you are a stick (very thin) a garter belt will not be very flattering.  Garters require a little bit of meat in order to give the full effect.  If you are fuller figured, don't try squeezing into a thong bikini.  Try going more for a teddy or sheer gown.

As you can see, there are many combinations for many skin types, hair colors and body types.  Choose what flatters your assets.  Above all, wear what excites your partner and GET SEXY!

The Art of Being Sexy

Women today think being sexy means you have to wear skimpy clothing, and do an awesome cat walk all the time.  Nothing can be further from the truth.  Lingerie worn correctly can be sexy.  Even plus sized women can be sexy.  You don't have to have a models body to be sexy.  Being sexy is a frame of mind, and you need to think you are sexy before you can be sexy.

When you see a woman that you think appears to be sexy, ask yourself "what is it about her that makes her sexy"?  Being sexy starts with your own thoughts.  You need to think of yourself as being sexy first and foremost.  Once you start thinking this way, you can begin to transform yourself into a sexy woman.  I have seen many fuller figured women that I considered sexy just because of how they carry themselves.  

You need to start with the basics.  Find a hair style that compliments your frame, and gives your face that sexy glow.  Nothing works like hair.  It sets the stage for everything else.  Short, unkempt hair will not help you look and feel sexy.  That doesn't mean short hair can't be sexy.  Jamie Lee Curtis proved that!  Style, that's what helps.  Next, take a look at your facial features.  Use makeup that compliments your face.  Don't gob base on to try and build a foundation.  It looks terrible.  Use subtle bases that compliment your features and skin tones.  Use eye shadow that blends well, and not too heavy.  You want to enhance your eyes, not make the eye lids stand out.  Dress sexy.  Now this doesn't mean wearing the skimpiest thing you can find.  It means starting with your bra and panties.  The right under garments can actually make a lot of outfits look sexy.  A bra that lifts the bust and creates cleavage, or makes your breasts look fuller can make most outfits sexy.  A high buttoned dress with a full breast appearance can look sexy.  If you have shapely buttocks, then wear high heels and maybe a thong.  What goes under enhances what goes on top.

Lastly, carry yourself sexy.  Don't walk with your head down, or slouch.  Walk with your head high.  Put one foot in front of the other when you walk to get a sexy swing going.  If you carry yourself in a confident manner, it will carry over to others.  When you look, use your eyes not your head.  Nothing says sexy more than a sideways glance, with your head tilted slightly down.  You can practice this in your mirror.  Find what look works for you and use it.

Once you have figured out what works for you and your body type, use it!  You are only as sexy as you feel!